I’ve been obsessed with Big Love, an HBO television show. It’s about a polygamist family! …in Utah. hah.

Anyway, I’ve been really wondering as I’m watching this…why is polygamy illegal? Back when we were all still developing as the human race polygamy was a very widespread practice. Men would go off and fight in battles or die hunting and women and children needed someone to provide for them. This lead to a very unequal balance of the sexes and the obvious solution was to have more than one women to every man. Everyone’s happy! Today that’s really not necessary, and obviously it’s not socially accepted…but why?

This is technically the land of religious freedom. People are free to have affairs in a marriage without any legal ramifications.. unless you have a prenuptial agreement that covers that…then you’re screwed. But married couples can practice swinging and really do whatever they like as long as it’s not harming anyone, they just can’t get married again while currently married.

As far as the practice goes, I think that as long as the people involved are consenting adults I don’t see a problem. I don’t like 12 year olds should be married off before they really know what they’re getting into. Consenting adults, yes. Impressionable minors, no.

After the raids that happened last year, the Polygamist community really had a spotlight shone on it. It turned into a huge he said/she said mess and we still really don’t know what all happened, we just saw wives and mothers crying over their children who got taken away.

Again, I think that as far as the religious aspect goes, God doesn’t say you need to marry a minor, the religion just believes you need more than one wife so everyone gets to the other side of the pearly gates. That’s fine. Just make the compromise to wait until everyone has the right to vote so there’s no more legal messes. If you are a legal adult, you should be allowed to marry whoever (gays/lesbians included here!) and however many you want, especially if the desire to have multiple people in the marriage is based on a religious belief. I don’t think the government has any business in religion, and vice-versa for that matter. It’s simple history, what happened last time there was some heavy religious persecution? We ended up with a new country. Well, I do believe we’ve ran out of available continents, so we’re going to have to deal with each other here, sorry. Is religious tolerance really that hard? Tolerance in general?

That being said, I know polygamy isn’t for me. I would probably become slightly homicidal if someone tried to get with Justin. That’s me though. sharing isn’t really my thing, but I wouldn’t knock it if someone else thought it was right for them.

Anyway, if you get the premium television from HBO, check out the show, you’ll definitely see where I’m coming from.


So, I’m a big country girl.  I also am a big country music fan.  Lately I’ve noticed that a lot of songs are geared towards growing up and wising up.

  • Montgomery Gentry – Back When I Knew It All ( I can’t believe all the answers I’ve found since back when I knew it all)
  • Brad Paisley – Letter To Me ( And I’d end by saying have no fear, these are nowhere near the best years of your life)
  • Trace Adkins – You’re Gonna Miss This (You’re gonna miss this, you’re gonna want this back.  You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast)

  • Those are the three that pop into my mind first.  They all make very goods points about being young and crazy, then old and wise.  Personally, back when I knew it all I thought an 11 o’clock bedtime was a horrible, horrible idea.  My father and I went round and round every night about quarter til and I would put up a fight like no other.  Now I would love for someone to make me go to bed at 11 every night…I might be able to get some decent sleep!

    If I could write  a letter to me, what would I tell myself?  First, at 17, I would tell myself simply not to worry so much.  Stop worrying about boys, all  those ones you cried over and worried about are simply drops at the bottom of the bucket of life.  Also, 17 is when I first saw Justin.  Sometimes I wonder what life would be like today if I simply put myself out there and struck up a friendship.  It would take two years and three failed relationships before I finally did.  The river of love sometimes flows upstream and all that.

    Finally, you’re gonna miss this.  Justin and I live in a beautiful two bedroom apartment in the outskirts of Butler in a beautiful setting and even a yard we can use along with fire pit, however that does not deter me in the slightest to future home purchasing endeavors.   Right now we’re just looking, but around this time next year we want to be seriously involved with home plans, maybe even have one picked out and purchased.  That’s a lot of dream for such a young couple, and I probably will miss our just starting out days somewhere down the line.  I know now that I’ll always be grateful for the opportunity to test the waters before making such an investment with Justin, it just makes me all the more confident that this is going to last us a good long while =)

    And to make you smile on this dreary humpday, not exactly one of my own pieces of work but..